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Friday, March 8, 2013

for my husband, Dave

today, I want to tell the story of me and Dave.  Dave and I have been married a little over 5 years now. There have been some very hard times. There have been days when I have wanted to quit. There have been days when I knew that quitting would have been justified. But, it seems that every single time that I wanted to quit, Christ would propel me to show love and grace. Through all of the hurts of the past, Jesus used my marriage to show me how to forgive, how to push on, and how to forget the past.

Christ showed me His very face and His nature through my entire marital experience. On the days when I wanted to quit, Christ allowed me to feel mercy. On the days when I was tempted toward anger and bitterness, Christ bid me to forget the wrongs of the past. He showed me that love forgets the wrongs of yesterday and only looks toward the future. Love is in the now.

Today is different than last year. I have a husband who now respects me. His actions, as well as his words prove that he loves me. Last week, he bought me a pair of pajama jeans and some cool water perfume. He makes me laugh, and he truly longs to be around me.

In the past, there were secrets. I stood my ground and now there are none. Women, men... you aren't meant to be trampled. You were created to be respected and loved, but the greatest thing you can do for your family is to love on, anyways.  when you love someone, without condition, you show them what real love looks like, and then you both learn something in the loving.

Jesus tells us that kind words are like honey to a wound, they bring about healing. Forgiveness is the way of the Cross.
NOT every marriage is going to work out, but if you seek the face of Christ, then  the chances of one working out are much greater than if you didn't.

He always leads us into love, and love changes things.

Dave, I know that you may never read this, but I am happy that I stuck around. I can see how you have changed in many ways. I give God the credit for helping me to love you because we both know that there were times when it was hard. i was hard to love too sometimes.

 I couldn't have asked for a better father for my boys. We aren't perfect,but maybe we are perfect for each other. I love you, even though I don't say it enough. I pray for you every night. I know that sometimes I wear a shell, and I can seem hard and thoughtless..but you are my family, and I am thankful that you are in my life. I am thankful for the times you make me laugh, and for all of the thoughtful things that you do. I'm glad we can forget the forget the past (because I've made mistakes too) and love in the present.

love forgets. love presses on in the midst of adversity. love never gives up. love is not proud. love is humble.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
The Message (MSG)
3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

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