First of all, put down your stones.
I want this blog to be a site of Truth...I want the Light to shine here...sometimes we have to talk about the hard, cold facts of life...the things that matter.....If you are coming to my blog as a means to obtain juicy gossip or to dissect and tear apart, then you will one day have to answer for your behaviour.
I don't want to understand adultery.
I know that during the course of my life, I have gone through cell phone records, computer history, etc. etc,
Anyone who has ever suspected a loved one or spouse of cheating, completely understands.
It hurts to the core. It hurts how the word "love" can be tossed around so carelessly.
It hurts to find someone else's number on the phone of someone who is supposed to be committed to you. It hurts to learn of "secrets." It just plain hurts.
So why? Why? Why do men and women cheat? Is it selfishness? Do some people completely have a disregard for others that they are willing to sacrifice their families welfare for a fling or a one night stand? Has the idea of self control been lost in our selfish society?
Has anyone heard about the website, Ashley Madison dot com? A place where married couples go to find that "special" someone? I cringe at the concept..
How many married people that dabble on dating sites or dabble with "friends" of the opposite sex consider themselves Christian? I am sickened...But can I cast my stones?
I don't. I simply want to shout from the rooftops, ADULTERY IS WRONG!
I have talked to many people about adultery. I have asked, why? I know married people and have heard stories about people who think an occassional delve into this realm "isn't going to hurt anyone.. I have actually heard someone say this. "Adultery isn't going to hurt anyone."
Do people with this false idea really believe that? Are they so lost that they have convinced themselves that they aren't hurting anyone? Families are torn apart because of adultery. America alone is falling apart before my very eyes! Children grow up without parents, often without love, and what is the result? Crime skyrockets, children are abused...so many dark things that grow out of "it isn't going to hurt anyone" adultery.
But can I cast my stones?
I was once in a situation. All trust was gone. I knew that I was being cheated on...I hadn't caught a certain someone in the actual act...but after enough lies about phone calls, and after actually talking to one of the women involved, I pretty much knew.
I didn't want to believe what was actually happening. So many lies. Adulters must be liars, also.
The two go hand in hand.
After I while, I began to notice other men. I began to crave that feeling of being "loved." I developed a close friendship with someone, but I realized that I was heading down the path of adultery myself. The friendship felt right. I never delved into the realm of adultery, Jesus stopped me..but I can see how some can be sucked into its vortex.
I can see how when someone is cheated on, they will reach out in part lonlieness and part revenge...
But it destroys! It kills families!
It is one of the most selfish acts that kills so much. So if you are dabbling on dangerous ground, stop!